I see and I understand your thoughts, from all of you, but I still believe it is a mistake believing that this is a solution to people's intolerance. It might seem as it is at first but if you look at it more closely it is no different than going to any server and I will explain why.
(Please bear with me I am not playing the devil's advocate just to piss you all off or because I want troll around. I am just sharing my beliefs and thoughts; I guess I am a bit different here).
Replying to some points since my last post:
for MMOWarrior I find the discussion springing up about segregation interesting. I hardly think the GLBT is segregated here or in the world.. far from it.. I offer my viewpoint simply for the sake of good conversation.. just to be clear (because print can't always be) I wasn't offended by your sex comment, I think my response came off harsher than I meant it to be..
I go throughout my day at work, with family, playing in a community orchestra, etc.. all with straight folks.. yet I also like to go home to my safe haven where I'm totally accepted just as I am.. the GLBT community is like going home.. Who doesn't like to go home? Gay, Straight or otherwise.. It's not a matter of this OR that, it's a matter of this AND that.. these things are not mutually exclusive.. for the record my best gaming buddy is a straight guy I met back in DAoC.. we've now been friends and gaming buddies for some 10 years..
Anyway I just thought the conversation was interesting..
Yes tone in plain text can be misleading but no worries I think mine came out wrong as well. :)
You know, it's interesting because you and I are agreeing completely and here we are arguing!
In my previous post I said I was all for being on a guild of folks who share the same beliefs
Being on a gay-straight friendly guild is fun and cozy because we can joke around without freaking people out but beyond that
I agree 100% that when I go home, I want to be with the people I am comfortable with and not having to worry about the usual crap. But beyond the walls of my home/guild, that's the world/server we are talking about, that's a different subject.
It's like only looking for work in places where you know everyone is homosexual, taking only gay metros, going to gay post offices, gay banks, it's just impossible and too much!
You know what I actually see happening if we attempt a move like this and we succeed? Forums filled with:
"The fag server"
"Why can't they just fucking play with everyone and have to make fuzz about everything"
And even if we happen to get a few GLBT guilds together and go to the same place, this as you all know does not guarantee exclusivity and we will still have to deal with intolerant people at some point just as in the real word.
Having a few more guilds will not make a difference if one day someone calls you any names. If you need support after an incident like this, you have us, your guild, your family. I don't see how more GLBT guilds can make a huge difference on this matter, just a bit.
What I am trying to say here is that a move like this can have more negative consequences that good ones:
We move with other GLBT guilds:
- [BAD] We STILL have intolerant people (a very few less).
- [BAD] We risk a community outrage for segregating into one server giving a bad name to the gay community.
- [BAD] Segregation has a negative effect on society concerning acceptance of homosexuals.
- [GOOD] You can get support from others like you when in need.
- [GOOD] You minimize the chances of encountering assholes (by a VERY small percentage).
We do not move:
- [BAD] We have intolerant people.
- [GOOD] You can get support from others like you when in need.
The good from moving do not outweigh the bad.
I feel like I am trying to screw with your plans and your dreams and believe me it's nothing at all like that. Hey I will go wherever you go, I don't care! I guess I am just a bit of an altruist regarding this subject.
I really think that this wish to limit ourselves so much against "the others" in order to protect ourselves (which I totally get and understand, trust me, been bashed all my childhood in school - good old cliché) will prevent us from meeting other extraordinary folks out there and make a difference in the community.
Ok that's for my dear MMOWarrior with love :)
Moviong on to Mr. HalishAgain, I agree with everything you say.
You see guys, the thing here is that I am with you and your thoughts, but I think we can get what we want by just going anywhere want, that's the only difference.
A few comments for you:
You should be able to be open about who you are and what you like without fear that people who were becoming friends suddenly shy away from you.
You don't want these guys as friends then, you want quality people.
Gay accepting guilds are great but I find there's always a moment where somebody says something to you which crosses the border of "harmful teasing" into homophobia. You look around to your guild mates for support and you find it lacking with people claiming you're taking it too personally and if you have the problem perhaps you should go.
Obviously not all guilds are like this but in my experience being open in a none-GBLT guild lends it self to this inevitable truth and you have no choice but to "turn the other cheek" and we need to be more "thick skinned". All similar things we shouldn't tell children when they're being bullied in school but for some reason we still do because the only other option is to act against the offender and like I said you find your allies not-so-number-some.
Completely agree.
It still depends on the person though and their ability to deal with these problems and the people he or she encounters but that is a different issue. I could talk about this for ages though. :)
But that's why we have this awesome GLBT guild! So problem solved. ^^
Being in a gay guild on a server can bring about similar challenges, especially in a completely social environment where everybody is encouraged to play with each other and help each other. Having more GBLT guilds with us gives us a little more grounds to be open about ourselves knowing that we have support that will back us up. It means that we can take part in large scale content knowing that we're surrounded by friends rather than people who are muttering things like "I don't care what you do but why do you have to talk about it? By the way me and my girlfriend got engaged last night".
There's a terrible double standard in gaming where GBLT members should operate a "don't ask, don't tell" attitude while straight people can be as open as they like. I wish to avoid any of our members, even for a second, feeling upset by the comment of idiot. Anyway we can limit this is a good thing, in my eyes.
Back to what I said to MMOWarrior. A few more might help yes, but is it really going to make that big of a difference and it is worth it when you compare pros and cons?
I don't see why you should encounter anyone who makes a comment like that to you if you talk with your guild. If you talk in the area chat then possible, but with us you are safe.
And concerning your last point, well nothing to say, I am with you; that is why I joined: to be a part of a multicultural group of people who enjoy, embrace, accept and respect who they are.
Anyway there goes the long post, thanks for your comments all. :)
Just a small disclaimer:
I totally understand where you are going with this and I get it.
I will also go wherever you go and will help make it happen if need to be.
I know what it is to be tired of hearing hate comments and want your little refuge.
I AM NOT TROLLING I SWEAR!!! I am trying to be constructive and just express my opinion./edit
Replying to ThrumdiYou are 1000% correct there - I think I exceed a bit when it comes to being out there and you are right, not everyone is an activist :) - that is probably, well no, that is exactly the reason I am being a bit more difficult here. But yes you hit right on the spot. Thanks!