[PRIDE10: WEEK 2] Pride Lands



[PRIDE10: WEEK 2] Pride Lands

June 23 2019

It's time to get inspirational and creative in Pride Lands, our second event in the run up to the fabulous Stonewall #Pride10 weekend!


50 years ago, a little known show called Star Trek ended...but in Greenwich, NYC, an awakening began...           
The Stonewall Riots, after which Stonewall Gaming Network is named, became a defining moment in LGBT history.
People stood up against the oppression using only what they could find.
So every year we honour their courage and celebrate with pride.         
Whether you are LGBT+ or a straight ally, out or still in the closet....
What makes you proud? Have you done something to help your LGBT community in your area or online?
Or what are you most proud of? Are you a proud gamer? Did you get that ultimate score?
Or whom?

Are you proud of a collection?           
Or of an achievement in life? Be it great or small! Are you proud of doing this in your life? (A college degree, a piece or art, something that you made or completed)
Did you complete an accolade set or get that legendary event done?
Or earned enough to finally get that ship you wanted?
50 years on...Star Trek has returned strong.
But the quest for equality continues...
Add your voice to our chorus by telling us your pride story.

  • You are welcome to use creative licence to share your pride story - be it written, audio, photographic, artistic composition or even a combination!
  • Your entry should be able to tell your pride story to us and all readers/viewers and evoke the feeling of us sharing in your pride.
  • So if it is a photographic entry, consider including a short narrative to accompany it, unless the photo is self-explanatory!
  • There is no limit to written entries but we do ask for more than simple one liners as they may not be sufficient enough to tell your pride story.
  • Share your pride story entry on this page from now until 30th June.
  • The judges will be Gareth, Kierix and Cal who will review all the entries and determine the top 3 after this date.

The top 3 entries, as rated by the judging panel, will win Stonewall Credits, redeemable in our Stonewall Credits Store:
  • 1st place 3 Stonewall Credits
  • 2nd place 2 Stonewall Credits
  • 3rd place 1 Stonewall Credits

And finally, all participants will have their entries immortalised in the next edition of the Stonewall Times!

We look forward to seeing your submissions!
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Edited June 24 2019 by calx
Jeff Breeze


[PRIDE10: WEEK 2] Pride Lands

June 25 2019
One of the proudest I have ever been is when I walked into this years Coronation of my local Imperial Court, almost 20 years to the day of the first time I have attended the event. The first time I was a very ignorant, arrogant person who knew little of how his community or the world at large worked, a nobody. This time when I came in, I was annouced to the entire gathering, a little older, a little wiser, but almost everyone in the room knew who I was, which still blows my mind. i am primarily affiliated with my home's bear community but over the past two decades I have developed a reputation as someone who is not afraid of reaching across boundaries and working with other organizations. I never expected to receive a lifetime title, much less half of what I have earned over the years. I guess it does prove that one person can make a difference if they are willing to set their mind to it.
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Kevin Van Eeten


[PRIDE10: WEEK 2] Pride Lands

June 25 2019

My absolute pride is the result of a weight loss journey. It feels that I’m exposing quite a bit of myself by writing this down, but it says a lot about my trust in this wonderful community that I feel safe and comfortable enough to write it down here.

I weighed 91 kg back in June 2017, which was too much at my 1,72 m height. I never was overweight until I went to university and basically drank far too much beer every night which gained me a lot of extra kilos. I was never able to successfully get it of anymore, despite the many many times I tried or started a diet.

This time it was different. I downloaded and installed an app called Lifesum, no I don’t own shares… 😉 It helped me a lot in accurately assessing my caloric intake and expenditure and this made it a whole lot easier to make better choices. I didn’t tell anyone as I’ve been unsuccessful so often and I was fearing people’s scrutinising reactions to yet another attempt. This time with the help of the app it worked, though! This obviously did a lot of good for my motivation, especially when other people started noticing.

Once the start was there, and I lost a few kilos, it became very easy and even fun to keep it up! I am a big nerd, so I used spreadsheets with which I could analyse my data and make constantly updating forecasts and summaries of my progress. I even calculated that I needed to cut 6886,1 kcal to lose 1 kg of weight, which is close to the 7000 kcal/kg you find so often in a lot of articles. The entire thing just comes down to consuming less calories than you use over a longer period of time. This is quite an open door, and literally helps nobody… I think it just comes down to finding a modus operandi that worked for me; data visualisation, spreadsheets, and making small changes based on that. Eating a little bit less, doing Zumba, taking a bike instead of a bus.

After about one year, I reached 66 kg, so that’s 25 kg less and I’m stable at that weight for about one year now already. I vividly remember two very emotional moments…

The first one was when we were going on a flight to Hungary and we could take along a 24 kg suitcase. I weighed myself without the suitcase and then with… and I was surprised to see my old weight back on the scale, but now with a super-heavy suitcase!

Another moment was when going for new clothes the first time after losing all that weight. Obviously your entire wardrobe can be thrown out and replaced for new clothes. I was a size XL, and when I first went to buy a new sweater I put on an M and was very proud that it fitted. The salesperson said that an S would suit me better though, and I tried that on and he was right! I bought the sweater and when me and my husband left the shop, I was crying so hard outside on the street.

So... here it is, I hope it doesn't feel like I'm oversharing stuff, but it truly is the one thing I am most proud of.

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[PRIDE10: WEEK 2] Pride Lands

June 26 2019
With some prodding it was suggested i take part in this post and it was going to be all about my first pride experience but having seen what this is about i think i have something better, here we go.

Growing up i had always been fairly quiet especially so at school (it was an all boys school in the 90s) where i was the classic nerd and not super popular but i had a good group of friends. Suffice to say puberty hit and it became apparent to me i was not the same as the other boys at school. This was something i tried to keep secret but at one point i trusted the wrong person and the news got out. What followed was two years of the most unpleasant bullying the details of which are fairly irrelevant to this post. I felt deeply ashamed of myself and just became something of a hermit never leaving my room and never talking to anyone. I didn't go to university though i had offers and it was only two years later when the schools careers officer rang me asking if i planned to ever go i decided to put an application in. I owe a lot to her because i likely would never have done so without prompting.

Going to university changed my life i became so much more comfortable and happy in myself but i was always still shy when it came to men and i was nervous in gay situations. During my years there i got used to the idea that i was gay but there was always part of me that held back and i was still very shy in public. During my entire time at university i never once kissed someone on a night out or even bought someone a drink. I was essentially hiding away from my gayness, whilst i had accepted it was part of who i was i was scared to show it in public.

Going forward to where i work now (BP) and there was quite a profound change in my personality. While Stonewall people may have always known me as the loud and seemingly confident person online it was not so in person. Working at BP i was supported and i came out to the people at work but i still never really spoke about my own life and in many respects i still didn't engage with the gay part of myself at all. The support i got at work helped and i was slowly becoming more confident in myself and slowly tuning into the loudmouth you all know (and tolerate) today. A turning point occurred when my local city was the UK city of culture and the pride event changed from a small provincial affair to a massive party to celebrate. As a volunteer for the city of culture i was sent to take part in the parade and it was a truly a life affirming experience. All these people coming out to support our community in a city in the north of England with a reputation for being a bit backwards, it genuinely warmed my heart. I slowly become more vocal about being gay both in and our of work and the real turning point happened later that year when the leader of our local BP Pride group left the company. There was nobody to take over this and he approached me and asked me to do it. I was horrified at the prospect of essentially being the local face for the LGBT+ community in the company. The alternative was that all activities in this area would stop entirely because these diversity and inclusion groups are run by volunteers and nobody else was stepping up. I took the decision that keeping the good work going was worth the discomfort on my part and i am so glad i did. This single action set in course a series of events that has massively increased my confidence and involves me standing in front of rooms filled with people giving educations sessions and even lobbying the leadership for change. I have arranged our continued sponsorship of the local pride parade and even get people from work to take part now. I have arranged multiple education sessions for people of all levels at the company. I have had meaningful discussions with alot of straight white middle aged men on topics such as trans rights and most recently i have been lobbying for some gender neutral toilets to be installed.

I am so very proud that i had the courage to be willing to overcome the difficulties i had in my early life and truly accept myself. The change i have been bring about because of this may not be big but it has been incredibly meaningful to me.
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Nick Swinford


[PRIDE10: WEEK 2] Pride Lands

June 27 2019
I suppose there are a few points in my life that I’m proud of.

Growing up, I had always been a shy kid; I was afraid to speak up in class or talk to strangers. I rarely gave my own opinion. Maybe it was because I was a northerner around southerners or because I was more quiet around more boisterous boys, but it wasn’t long before I was pegged as the gay kid. At 16 and in high school, I was tired of living a life in the closet and decided to come out. This put a target on my back like never before. Being called queer or faggot walking down the hall was common place. Death threats passed to me as notes or whispered to me in class were a weekly occurrence. One day, they described in detail how they’d skin me alive and set me on fire if they ever got me alone. I quickly had to learn to stand up for myself and defend myself and I did. I found my own voice and learned to make sure other people heard it too. I stood up to the bullies and didn't back down. In the face of adversity, I persevered.

When I went away to college, the first thing I did was find out about the glbt club on campus. It didn’t meet till two weeks into the semester and I excitedly waited for it. When the night finally came and I remember sitting in the meeting room and looking around; there were 15 other gay people in the same place as me! I was so excited to no longer be alone. I was an active member in the group from the very beginning and was quickly elected to Webmaster. (This was at a time I knew nothing about web development.) After that short tenure, I was elected Vice President and then President. Under my direction, the rag tag group of 15 swelled to 75. We had to find a bigger meeting space! When it came time to host the yearly student lgbt state-wide conference, my organization was selected to host it due to our leadership. When it came time to fund the conference, I raised $15,000 to fund it through a coalition of university departments, non-profits and statewide agencies.

Since starting Stonewall Fleet, there have been numerous instances that have filled me with pride. Watching a small group that you started of a not even a dozen players grow into hundreds and more is an amazing experience. When Star Trek Online was just about to launch, I was so honored to be gifted a lifetime membership by the members of Stonewall Fleet. When I posted my Guest Blog: Celebrating Diversity in Star Trek, the out pouring of support was overwhelming. I got messages from dozens of players thanking me for the post and our Pride Weekend celebration was one of the largest ever.  When I received the letter below, I was so proud of the reputation that Stonewall Fleet had built. I’m proud each time someone tells me about the impact that our community has had on their life, either by making friends, helping them become more comfortable with their sexuality, or even meeting the love of their life. I'm not just proud of my accomplishments, but that of the hundreds of members who have volunteered their time, energy and skill to help build this community into what it is. Without the combined effort and collaboration of countless people, Stonewall Fleet wouldn't be what it is today.

Hi Nick,

My name’s XXX XXXXX, the Community Team Lead for ArenaNet’s upcoming MMO, Guild Wars 2.  I’d like to talk with you today about a special testing opportunity for your guild.

Since we first publicly demonstrated Guild Wars 2 a few years ago, we’ve been fortunate enough to capture the imagination and enthusiasm of MMO players and press around the world. With Guild Wars 2, our goal is nothing less than redefining the limits of the massive online role playing genre, and we’d like your help in achieving that goal.

At this stage in our development, we’re looking for guilds to help us with testing Guild Wars 2, which is where you come in. The Stonewall Fleet came highly recommended to me by members of our studio, so we’d like to extend an invitation to you and 4 other members of your guild for a special closed beta test in the near future.

If you’re interested in advancing MMO gaming and helping us make Guild Wars 2 one of the premiere online role playing games , please reply back to me and I’ll follow up with further details. As you can imagine, this private beta testing opportunity will be covered by a Non-Disclosure Agreement, so I’d appreciate it if you could keep this email conversation confidential as well.

Thanks for your consideration and I look forward to talking to you soon. See you on the battlefield!

P.S.  Take a look at our website to learn more about Guild Wars 2 and to check out some of the awards and accolades we’ve received so far.

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Edited June 28 2019 by NicholasJohn16
Kieran Kiki


[PRIDE10: WEEK 2] Pride Lands

June 29 2019
I always am, and always will be proud and in love with every member of stonewall gaming network, whether it be as a friend or pseudo family member. You are all amazing in my eyes and it wouldn't be the same without you. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
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Kevin Lol


[PRIDE10: WEEK 2] Pride Lands

June 30 2019
well which im proud of is in my puberty i took the wrong path with a disturbed mind I was seduced by drugs and with my disturbed mind I became my very own destruction.
more disturbed than i was at early 14 years the hell broke loose when i was 15 years old and heard that my father is a female.
from a simple joint around that age i was smoking too much and then i discovered the hard stuff and went from disturbed to completly mental.
Going waaaay too deep with this hard stuff and lost my mind around my 17th by a psychose and from a disturbed confused mind i turned into a paranoid anxious person and lived many years in terror of fear.
When i reached 18 i was legally free to have intercourse so i reached out with the next confused mode in my head --> Dad is a woman and how the heck does this gene affects me?(its smt personal not about genes)

Very confused i was seeking in what or who i am.
Trying bi curious met men and woman for sexual intercourse completly messed up in my head and not understanding whats all going on.
Went to many females behind a red light and searching confirmation with this confused mind of me.
It made me all more confused and now i know im straight as it can be. i allways liked female.

I paid the price to get a psychose when i was around 17 and till my 22nd year i still had many problems to solve.
but around 2012 I became homeless and thats which im very proud of.
Because from that moment I stood up and didnt let me affect the bad things that went in all my life that destructed my very own life and when i realized this i started to grow and reached a state of my mind which hold me stable to live a life where the past is past and the future is something to reach out to and achieve goals.

this is my short story and this what i am and who i am and how i reached it is whats making me proud in my life
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Ian M. Walker


[PRIDE10: WEEK 2] Pride Lands

June 30 2019
My greatest pride centres around my sister, Caryn Walker.

I'm the eldest of five.  When we were kids, I often had to act like a parent.  Apparently, I even used to run school classes for my siblings (register and all!).  I don't remember that or most of my childhood as it is blocked due to what happened to us.

Our parents were abusive.  Particularly, my stepfather, Caryn's real father.  For me, it was being hit with cricket bats, soup ladles and later, fists.  For Caryn, it was sexual abuse from the age of eight.  She thinks this happened to me too but, as I said, it is blocked.  I have a few hazy memories which may suggest it but early childhood is just a blank otherwise.  Later on, I do remember the constant beatings and the ever-present fear.  I used to escape into books or, when I was old enough, to my Nan's house.

Our other sister, Jenny, was taken into care at a young age.  The reasons are murky.  She ended up dying at 36 due to heroin abuse causing a brain embolism.  

Caryn took the brave step to first, tell the family about what happened and then, unbelievably, to report him and take him to court.  I went back to England in 2011 to be part of the court case as a witness.  He was found guilty on 23 counts and put away for 16 years.

This was a huge turning point for Caryn.  But, it wasn't enough.  Though it took a few years she realised she hadn't had the closure she had thought she would obtain.  She was starting to feel a burgeoning strength, a voice she had never had.  She decided to go further and try to help others in similar situations and to give voice also to our sister, Jenny.

So, with the help of a wonderful ghostwriter, Caryn wrote a book, dedicated to Jenny.  It was published last year and has been doing very well, now being translated into a few different European languages and as of a couple of months ago, finally available over here in the US.

Caryn has been interviewed by newspapers and radio, given book signings and talks at little cafes and the like and now has been invited to speak at public events for organisations such as Shatter Boys/Shatter Girls UK.

She has been inundated with positivity from people telling her how she has given them the courage to take steps for their own situations.  Over and over she is thanked by people.

This is what it was all for.  This is why she had to get it out there.  This has given her the closure she needed.  Turning a horrific negative into a helpful positive and growing that strength into a woman who will not be quiet or silenced (some of the family have tried to) and will dedicate herself to helping others.

Despite everything, Caryn has always been a warm, friendly and helpful person who people adore.  Until her revelation, nobody (including me as I just don't remember) had any idea of the struggles she had and was still dealing with due to her start in life.  She has attended Pride events and has always been supportive of me since I came out at 17 (when my mum asked me and then I was subsequently thrown out).  

With her help and encouragement I am now getting my own treatment for what Caryn was diagnosed with last year and now talks about - CPTSD, Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.  It is not as widely known as CPTSD but originates with systematic and prolonged trauma.  She is educating and reaching so many people.

She might be younger but I have always been in awe of her strength, particularly with regard to the above.  I doubt there is anybody I will ever feel prouder of.

As Caryn says, if you tell your own story, it could one day be a guide for others.

Thank you for reading.

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Edited June 30 2019 by Michlo


[PRIDE10: WEEK 2] Pride Lands

July 02 2019
Thank you to all the entrants to Pride Lands, you've opened your hearts and souls into sharing what and/or who makes you proud!

It has truly been inspiring reading all of these submissions and it is therefore with great pleasure that we announce that all of you have been awarded 3 stonewall credits each! Please give some time for your accounts to be updated in due course.

If you didn't enter, even if you may feel that you have nothing to be proud of, or a little shy, we hope that this event has and will continue to inspire you as well as others to stand proud in future. We'll be posting all of these entries in future editions of the Stonewall Times to keep on inspiring members old and new.

Thank you for making my first event so memorable for me personally and for contributing to our Stonewall family chorus!

Don't forget to buy raffle tickets from any of the Resources Dept members - catch us in game or message us on Discord or here!

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Gareth GXV3


[PRIDE10: WEEK 2] Pride Lands

July 02 2019
Ohhh!! your ALL winners!!! what a great decision!!
No judging needed, these were great posts and i truly enjoyed them a lot.
 Very inspiring and some interesting and different life steps in your historys. 

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[PRIDE10: WEEK 2] Pride Lands

July 02 2019
Quote by calx
If you didn't enter, even if you may feel that you have nothing to be proud of

Yeah that's why I ultimately gave up
Ian M. Walker


[PRIDE10: WEEK 2] Pride Lands

July 04 2019
Thank you and congratulations to all. :)
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Ted Hembach


[PRIDE10: WEEK 2] Pride Lands

July 14 2019
[2:45] T'Lara@TedHembach: Its late here, almost 3 o'clock in the mornin, and I'm gettin kind of nostalgic. Cal ask what Pride means for us. Hm. I wanna tell you something:

[2:45] Gareth@GXV3: ohh

[2:46] T'Lara@TedHembach: It teaches us things. Valuable things. Lessons. About how to get old. When I joined my first SW Pride, I think it was 2014 or 15, I was very new and impressed. Then, a guy named

[2:46] D'na@DanaDark: Is ... Is... this where you profess your love for me?

[2:48] T'Lara@TedHembach: Eurssk, donated me a gift. It was my Sehlat Bok here, named after Sybok, and I was really baffled. It was a Lobi pet, and he gave it to me - just so.

[2:49] Gareth@GXV3: aweeee

[2:49] T'Lara@TedHembach: Today, there was a new fleetie, and he had no swimsuit. So I gave him the Favors needed to buy one. He was a little baffled too, asking 'really? are you sure?'. And i was sure, coz this is our way.

[2:50] D'na@DanaDark: Kiki bought my swimsuit for me. :) the fleet generousity knows no bounds!

[2:51] T'Lara@TedHembach: Now I am the fleetie who gives stuff away, just like Eurssk did it years ago. That how you notice what it means to get older. That one of the lessons, that Pride can teach you. I'm proud.

[2:51] Fanon@audiored: It's a nice and friendly fleet for sure

[2:51] T'Lara@TedHembach: Oh, its the only fleet I wanna be in.

[2:52] Gareth@GXV3: Thats beautiful Tlara.... really is.... your passing the tourch on, one day that new member will hopfully pass the memory of kindness on too and help someone else.

[2:52] Tharil@thunderfoot1007: Hear! Hear!

[2:53] T'Lara@TedHembach: He will for sure.

[2:54] Kira@sellinodan: mhm seems here is neither an exchange nor a tailor  so i'll quickly go and buy a swimmsuit so i might need a reinvitaion lkater!

[2:54] T'Lara@TedHembach: That was a great day today. Glad I could make it, glad you are all here.

[2:55] Gareth@GXV3: here here!!!! another full fun day tomorrow to go too!

[2:55] Tharil@thunderfoot1007: I had fun. Which is what his game is supposed to be about. I had more fun because I got to play STO with friends and Fleeties. Which makes it more fun.

[2:56] D'na@DanaDark: A good community goes a long way indeed.

[2:56] T'Lara@TedHembach: Yay! And you get all the optionals lol.

[3:00] Meow Meow@Simon_Picard: Stonewall fleet has always given me a home ever since I started playing all those years ago. I drift here and there but you've remained a constant and I thank the hard work, dedication and passion of

[3:00] Meow Meow@Simon_Picard: everyone in this fleet, past and present who have made it so.
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Edited July 14 2019 by TLara
Jamie Hurst


[PRIDE10: WEEK 2] Pride Lands

July 14 2019
What does Pride mean for me?

It means not being afraid of who I am. 

I grew up in the 70's/80's - not the most open time to be gay. Sh*t happened (as it often does in life) and by 90's I was coming to terms with all it (seriously, you don't need the details). In 1995 I was outed by a member of my family. And... Yes, they tried to make it shameful, they wanted me to hide - to change. But I didn't. I ended up having to leave home, leave my DNA family behind. 1995 was the first time I marched in London Pride. I had a boyfriend, I had friends - and for the first time in my life I felt truly alive. I felt like I was free.

No road is without it's bumps, and now in 2019 the world (and I) are different from what they used to be. I don't hide who I am anymore. I am proud to say "husband" to my partner of 17 years. I am proud of the family I now have who loves me for who I am. I am an awesome Gruncle. I am a big softie when it comes to my fur-baby (the destructive little minx). And my husband - I love being able to use that word - my husband is just awesome.

For me, Pride mean being free. Free to love, free to live. Free to be.
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