Re: Feel Captain Promotion!
Welcome to the team, Axis! :D Glad you could join us! B)
Eurrsk
Raxxial
MrIzzy
Fleet Captain Promotion!
Good news everyone!
One of the great honors and privileges of being an Admiral of Stonewall Fleet is to share in the positive experience it affords others and to our community.
A founding principal of Stonewall Fleet is to seek out new forms of diversity, to spread the Federation ideals of unity and acceptance, and boldly go where no person has gone before. As a long time Star Trek fan myself, I am reminded of that very simple ideal every time I watch the introduction to an episode of Classic Star Trek or The Next Generation. Yet for so simple a statement, it carries such significant weight; not only to our past and the present, but also to our collective future.
In any fleet or membership based group, there must come a vision - one which is guided by the decisions of senior leaders to help influence the actions of others toward a common goal. They are tasked with the welfare of the membership, including delegating such authority to those who embrace and best represent the principles of the group as a whole.
By the powers vested in me by the Admiralty of Stonewall Fleet, I would like to announce the following promotions to Fleet Captain effective immediately:
@Twinkle Boy - Department of Fleet Morale
As a Fleet Captain, @Twinkle Boy, will be responsible for general Fleet Captain duties such as assisting members in game, hosting events, fleet invites, and general forum/chat moderation just to name a few. Fleet Captains are a more senior member of the fleet due to their expanded abilities and knowledge of the game. They participate and assist with the day to day operations of this vast community we all appreciate and care about.
If you are in game and need assistance, feel free to reach out to any of the Fleet Captains, or to any Admiral that may be online at that time.
Please join me in congratulating and welcoming @Twinkle Boy to his new role as Fleet Captain!
Admiral MrIzzy
One of the great honors and privileges of being an Admiral of Stonewall Fleet is to share in the positive experience it affords others and to our community.
A founding principal of Stonewall Fleet is to seek out new forms of diversity, to spread the Federation ideals of unity and acceptance, and boldly go where no person has gone before. As a long time Star Trek fan myself, I am reminded of that very simple ideal every time I watch the introduction to an episode of Classic Star Trek or The Next Generation. Yet for so simple a statement, it carries such significant weight; not only to our past and the present, but also to our collective future.
In any fleet or membership based group, there must come a vision - one which is guided by the decisions of senior leaders to help influence the actions of others toward a common goal. They are tasked with the welfare of the membership, including delegating such authority to those who embrace and best represent the principles of the group as a whole.
By the powers vested in me by the Admiralty of Stonewall Fleet, I would like to announce the following promotions to Fleet Captain effective immediately:
@Twinkle Boy - Department of Fleet Morale
As a Fleet Captain, @Twinkle Boy, will be responsible for general Fleet Captain duties such as assisting members in game, hosting events, fleet invites, and general forum/chat moderation just to name a few. Fleet Captains are a more senior member of the fleet due to their expanded abilities and knowledge of the game. They participate and assist with the day to day operations of this vast community we all appreciate and care about.
If you are in game and need assistance, feel free to reach out to any of the Fleet Captains, or to any Admiral that may be online at that time.
Please join me in congratulating and welcoming @Twinkle Boy to his new role as Fleet Captain!
Admiral MrIzzy
Datura
Re: =*=*=*Fleet Achievements Board*=*=*=
then we tried to play ground and rebecca simmons got us down so many times. room reset. ROOM RESET .... ROOOOMMM RESSEEEETTTT. :huh: :huh: :huh: :huh:
SiranNataan
Re: You and Me and PGPs! (A Guide to Preferred Gender Pronouns)
This thread should be stickied, so that it doesn't fall down the list of posts, and so it's one of the first things new members see.
Elquin
Voleron
Re: Fleet Bank Donation Drive!
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P R I Z E · W O N !
Congratulations to Zoli@Stduopollex for winning a unique, Holo-Leeta duty officer, for the mid-day very rare donation race!
At approximately 2:30 PM EST, on a donation race was announced in fleet chat, offering the unique prize for the first fleet member to donate five, very rare (purple) ground armour or gear to the appropriate tab of any of Stonewall's Fleet banks! Zoli was the first to complete this task and was awarded accordingly!
There are only FIVE days remaining in January, our fleet bank donation drive month! We still have LOTS of goodies to give away, so be sure to keep your eye on fleet chat, TeamSpeak and right here in the forums for random chances to win as our donation drive comes to a close!
Remember to give generously to your local fleet bank!
Voleron
Re: You and Me and PGPs! (A Guide to Preferred Gender Pronouns)
Thanks very much for taking the time to put this together, Paladia! I've personally taken a lot away from this and I know that others will as well. It's important to me to make the effort to have everyone in our community feel at home, and this, coupled with everyone's collective effort will really help with that : ) Thanks for your hard work on this!
Edit: my PGP is masculine: he/him/his :)
Cheers,
Dave.
Edit: my PGP is masculine: he/him/his :)
Cheers,
Dave.
Eurrsk
Re: You and Me and PGPs! (A Guide to Preferred Gender Pronouns)
*squee* !
Thank you for sharing this, Paladia! Some really great info to keep in mind! :)
Thank you for sharing this, Paladia! Some really great info to keep in mind! :)
Unknown Person
Re: You and Me and PGPs! (A Guide to Preferred Gender Pronouns)
Thanks for the great information, Paladia!
I do think that sometimes the cisgender community can be quite ignorant when dealing with transgender issues and something as simple as using the correct pronoun can mean so much to our transgender fleeties and guildies.
We should always try and address people as they would like to be addressed. I'd only ask forgiveness if I or anybody else, in ignorance, accidentally uses the wrong pronoun.
I do think that sometimes the cisgender community can be quite ignorant when dealing with transgender issues and something as simple as using the correct pronoun can mean so much to our transgender fleeties and guildies.
We should always try and address people as they would like to be addressed. I'd only ask forgiveness if I or anybody else, in ignorance, accidentally uses the wrong pronoun.
Chai
Re: You and Me and PGPs! (A Guide to Preferred Gender Pronouns)
I LOVE THIS POST!!!!!!! I LOVE THIS POST!!!!!!! I REALLY LOVE THIS POST
Paladia
Re: You and Me and PGPs! (A Guide to Preferred Gender Pronouns)
This was written several days ago for Fleet leadership and further expanded and revised for the benefit of the entire Stonewall community!
Paladia
You and Me and PGPs! (A Guide to Preferred Gender Pronouns)
The following is a guide to gender pronoun use. As we have many Transgender fleeties (some of whom are nonbinary), this guide may be useful in learning about how some Transpeople need to be addressed. Please ask any questions you may have! :)
What's a PGP?
'PGP' stands for 'preferred gender pronoun'. Your PGP refers to the personal pronouns you would like others to use when referring to you.
Examples of PGPs include:
He/Him/His: Masculine
She/Her/Hers: Feminine
Zie/Hir/Hirs: Neutral
E/Em/Eirs: Neutral ('Spivak' pronouns)
They/Them/Theirs: Neutral, 'Singular They'
Usage:
Jamie is going to the store to look for Jamie's lost umbrella. The one on the table is not Jamie's. So tell Jamie!
Masculine: He is going to the store to look for his lost umbrella. The one on the table is not his. So tell him!
Feminine: She is going to the store to look for her lost umbrella. The one on the table is not hers. So tell her!
Neutral: Zie is going to the store to look for hir lost umbrella. The one on the table is not hirs. So tell hir!
Neutral Spivak: E is going to the store to look for eir lost umbrella. The one on the table is not eirs. So tell em!
Neutral Singular They: They are going to the store to look for their lost umbrella. The one on the table is not theirs. So tell them!
There are even more pronouns than these, but the ones I've listed are the most common! Of the neutrals, 'singular they' is the easiest to use (it works just like 'plural they') and seems to be the most common.
But some of those aren't words!
Words are only words when they are used. If we use it, it becomes 'real.' As language is used, it changes. By consciously changing your language to respect another person's PGPs, you're helping to change the English language to be more accommodating of all people, not just men and women!
It may be difficult for you to change the way you use pronouns, especially when the pronouns involved are totally new to you. Luckily, with practice you can incorporate them into your speech. Plus, if you use a person's PGPs, they will feel more comfortable and accepted.
Wait... 'neutral?' Why would somebody use those? Aren't there only two genders?
Au contraire, mon Capitan!
Most people you will meet on this planet are cisgender. This means that their gender identity matches their assigned sex at birth. So, if a person is born and the doctor writes 'male' on the birth certificate and later this person grows to identify as a man, he is cisgender.
Transgender refers to anyone whose gender identity does not match this gender assignment. You may be familiar with binary-gender identified transgender people. This refers to people assigned male who identify as female, and people assigned female who identify as male.
However, some transgender people do not identify as either male or female. They may identify as bigender (both male and female), agender (neither male nor female), and/or genderfluid (their gender identity fluctuates) among other identities. Umbrella terms used for these people include genderqueer or non-binary. People who do not have a binary gender identity may feel more comfortable when neutral pronouns are used to refer to them.
How do we know a person's PGPs?
When in doubt, ask!
Generally, those of us that prefer neutral PGPs will make it public knowledge. Look at my signature, my PGPs are there!
Most people (both transgender and cisgender) use binary pronouns. These refer to 'he' and 'she'. In the Stonewall community, our forum profiles make it a bit easier. If someone lists that they are 'male' or 'female' on their profile, it is best to go with the pronouns that align with their stated gender identity unless otherwise asked.
If the member has elected to use 'other' to describe their gender, you can use a neutral pronoun set OR just that person's name to refer to them until they tell you to do otherwise.
Shouldn't we just use neutral pronouns for everyone?
No!
First of all, gender identity is very important for most people. The majority of people do not have a neutral gender identity. So, we should use words that align with how these people wish to be called. If you've ever seen the TNG episode “The Outcast,” you may remember the J'naii race that had eradicated binary gender and punished those that identified as anything other than Androgynous harshly. Let's not do that here! Neutral pronouns are good to describe people we're unsure about as well as for those who prefer neutral pronouns.
Isn't it rude to ask someone about pronouns? I don't want to make people uncomfortable!
Cisgender people may feel odd at being asked what their gender or pronoun is, because in their experience these things have been self-evident. However, remember that many transgender people may not superficially appear as their actual gender. For those of us who are non-binary, it's difficult to appear as something a lot of people don't know actually exists! Therefore, asking makes you look very polite as well as a clear ally!
What if I get someone's PGPs wrong?
1. Acknowledge that you made a mistake.
2. Apologize.
3. Reword what you just said in the correct pronoun.
4. Move on. Never tell the person how 'hard' this is for you. This makes us feel as if we are asking too much of you to address us properly. Don't linger on your mistake, simply move on!
In my case, I would prefer a public acknowledgment as it reinforces my preferences to other Fleeties, but others might feel more comfortable with a private apology. When in doubt, ask!
What if someone else gets a person's PGPs wrong?
If you hear a someone using the wrong pronoun for a person who you know prefers a different pronoun, consider gently correcting them. For example, you can say "Paladia prefers to be referred to as 'they', not 'she'."
If you are corrected about someone's pronoun preferences, accept it gracefully and keep it in mind for the future.
Can PGPs change?
They certainly can!
Just like sexual orientation, gender identity can shift and change over time. Someone who identified as 'gay' in college might identify as 'bisexual' later in life, and vice versa. The same is true for gender identity. So, someone who you may have known as 'he' may come out as transgender and prefer 'she.' And then, as time passes, 'she' seems to fit less and less and the person decides to use neutral pronouns. Each gender journey is different!
If someone comes to you and speaks about changing their pronouns for whatever reason, respect that choice and do your best to use this person's new pronouns.
If you yourself are thinking of changing your pronouns, it may help for you to ask several trusted allies to use a new pronoun for you to see how it feels. Hopefully, Stonewall is a place where such friends can be made!
How else can I be a good ally?
Consider listing your PGPs, even if you are cisgender and they match your gender presentation. If you are active in any LGBTQIA clubs in which introductions are common, try introducing your PGPs along with your name. You can say, "Hi, my name is Mike. I prefer masculine pronouns: 'he, him, his.'"
What this does is not simply inform people of your gender identity, it also makes it 'okay' for us to make our pronoun preferences known. Constantly having to state your pronoun preferences can make non-binary people feel strange or different. If allies also state their preferred pronouns, it becomes less strange and more generally accepted in LGBTQIA groups.
With that in mind, I'll offer a challenge: If you've read this guide all the way to the end, respond with YOUR PGPs! :)
Stonewall Fleet strives to be inclusive, welcoming, and accepting to all members. If there is anything we can do to help you feel more at home here, please let either myself or any other member of the leadership team know!
What's a PGP?
'PGP' stands for 'preferred gender pronoun'. Your PGP refers to the personal pronouns you would like others to use when referring to you.
Examples of PGPs include:
He/Him/His: Masculine
She/Her/Hers: Feminine
Zie/Hir/Hirs: Neutral
E/Em/Eirs: Neutral ('Spivak' pronouns)
They/Them/Theirs: Neutral, 'Singular They'
Usage:
Jamie is going to the store to look for Jamie's lost umbrella. The one on the table is not Jamie's. So tell Jamie!
Masculine: He is going to the store to look for his lost umbrella. The one on the table is not his. So tell him!
Feminine: She is going to the store to look for her lost umbrella. The one on the table is not hers. So tell her!
Neutral: Zie is going to the store to look for hir lost umbrella. The one on the table is not hirs. So tell hir!
Neutral Spivak: E is going to the store to look for eir lost umbrella. The one on the table is not eirs. So tell em!
Neutral Singular They: They are going to the store to look for their lost umbrella. The one on the table is not theirs. So tell them!
There are even more pronouns than these, but the ones I've listed are the most common! Of the neutrals, 'singular they' is the easiest to use (it works just like 'plural they') and seems to be the most common.
But some of those aren't words!
Words are only words when they are used. If we use it, it becomes 'real.' As language is used, it changes. By consciously changing your language to respect another person's PGPs, you're helping to change the English language to be more accommodating of all people, not just men and women!
It may be difficult for you to change the way you use pronouns, especially when the pronouns involved are totally new to you. Luckily, with practice you can incorporate them into your speech. Plus, if you use a person's PGPs, they will feel more comfortable and accepted.
Wait... 'neutral?' Why would somebody use those? Aren't there only two genders?
Au contraire, mon Capitan!
Most people you will meet on this planet are cisgender. This means that their gender identity matches their assigned sex at birth. So, if a person is born and the doctor writes 'male' on the birth certificate and later this person grows to identify as a man, he is cisgender.
Transgender refers to anyone whose gender identity does not match this gender assignment. You may be familiar with binary-gender identified transgender people. This refers to people assigned male who identify as female, and people assigned female who identify as male.
However, some transgender people do not identify as either male or female. They may identify as bigender (both male and female), agender (neither male nor female), and/or genderfluid (their gender identity fluctuates) among other identities. Umbrella terms used for these people include genderqueer or non-binary. People who do not have a binary gender identity may feel more comfortable when neutral pronouns are used to refer to them.
How do we know a person's PGPs?
When in doubt, ask!
Generally, those of us that prefer neutral PGPs will make it public knowledge. Look at my signature, my PGPs are there!
Most people (both transgender and cisgender) use binary pronouns. These refer to 'he' and 'she'. In the Stonewall community, our forum profiles make it a bit easier. If someone lists that they are 'male' or 'female' on their profile, it is best to go with the pronouns that align with their stated gender identity unless otherwise asked.
If the member has elected to use 'other' to describe their gender, you can use a neutral pronoun set OR just that person's name to refer to them until they tell you to do otherwise.
Shouldn't we just use neutral pronouns for everyone?
No!
First of all, gender identity is very important for most people. The majority of people do not have a neutral gender identity. So, we should use words that align with how these people wish to be called. If you've ever seen the TNG episode “The Outcast,” you may remember the J'naii race that had eradicated binary gender and punished those that identified as anything other than Androgynous harshly. Let's not do that here! Neutral pronouns are good to describe people we're unsure about as well as for those who prefer neutral pronouns.
Isn't it rude to ask someone about pronouns? I don't want to make people uncomfortable!
Cisgender people may feel odd at being asked what their gender or pronoun is, because in their experience these things have been self-evident. However, remember that many transgender people may not superficially appear as their actual gender. For those of us who are non-binary, it's difficult to appear as something a lot of people don't know actually exists! Therefore, asking makes you look very polite as well as a clear ally!
What if I get someone's PGPs wrong?
1. Acknowledge that you made a mistake.
2. Apologize.
3. Reword what you just said in the correct pronoun.
4. Move on. Never tell the person how 'hard' this is for you. This makes us feel as if we are asking too much of you to address us properly. Don't linger on your mistake, simply move on!
In my case, I would prefer a public acknowledgment as it reinforces my preferences to other Fleeties, but others might feel more comfortable with a private apology. When in doubt, ask!
What if someone else gets a person's PGPs wrong?
If you hear a someone using the wrong pronoun for a person who you know prefers a different pronoun, consider gently correcting them. For example, you can say "Paladia prefers to be referred to as 'they', not 'she'."
If you are corrected about someone's pronoun preferences, accept it gracefully and keep it in mind for the future.
Can PGPs change?
They certainly can!
Just like sexual orientation, gender identity can shift and change over time. Someone who identified as 'gay' in college might identify as 'bisexual' later in life, and vice versa. The same is true for gender identity. So, someone who you may have known as 'he' may come out as transgender and prefer 'she.' And then, as time passes, 'she' seems to fit less and less and the person decides to use neutral pronouns. Each gender journey is different!
If someone comes to you and speaks about changing their pronouns for whatever reason, respect that choice and do your best to use this person's new pronouns.
If you yourself are thinking of changing your pronouns, it may help for you to ask several trusted allies to use a new pronoun for you to see how it feels. Hopefully, Stonewall is a place where such friends can be made!
How else can I be a good ally?
Consider listing your PGPs, even if you are cisgender and they match your gender presentation. If you are active in any LGBTQIA clubs in which introductions are common, try introducing your PGPs along with your name. You can say, "Hi, my name is Mike. I prefer masculine pronouns: 'he, him, his.'"
What this does is not simply inform people of your gender identity, it also makes it 'okay' for us to make our pronoun preferences known. Constantly having to state your pronoun preferences can make non-binary people feel strange or different. If allies also state their preferred pronouns, it becomes less strange and more generally accepted in LGBTQIA groups.
With that in mind, I'll offer a challenge: If you've read this guide all the way to the end, respond with YOUR PGPs! :)
Stonewall Fleet strives to be inclusive, welcoming, and accepting to all members. If there is anything we can do to help you feel more at home here, please let either myself or any other member of the leadership team know!
Eurrsk
pnuttbuttah
Marynne
): i'm sick and so it my internets
Hey all
I have a bad cold atm and I also have very flaky internet. So you might not see me around much for a couple of weeks.
Robyn :(
I have a bad cold atm and I also have very flaky internet. So you might not see me around much for a couple of weeks.
Robyn :(
Datura
Voleron
Re: [EVENT] Winter Trek Trivia!
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M E D A L S · A W A R D E D !
[attachment=1920]Trivia20Event20Participant.png[/attachment](Participant medal)
[attachment=1921]Trivia20Event20Winner.png[/attachment]
(Winner medal)[attachment=1921]Trivia20Event20Winner.png[/attachment]
Today, we've updated the profile medals for our Winter Trek Trivia Event winner and participants! Congratulations to Sej@Ereiid for upgrading his medal from participant to winner with this month's victory!
Anyone who made the scoreboard, who hadn't previously been awarded a participation medal, was awarded one today! Medals appear to the left of your forum posts, underneath your profile picture, and mark various achievements within the fleet!
Congratulations to all, and be sure to join us for our next Trek Trivia event (date and time to be announced in the coming weeks!) for your chance to win! :D
Ereiid
Re: =*=*=*Fleet Achievements Board*=*=*=
At first, looking at >35 minutes for Cure seemed incongruous, before realizing that was from the old conjoined SpaceGround STF system, so lulz.
4:40 for CSE with LizTroi, Daturon, Ta Gah, and Tyr bringing up the Kang.
Hi fives, y'all.
Now seriously. Lay off the meth.
EDIT: CombatLog, if you were interested:
CombatLogReader—Cure Space[4:40]— Dmg(DPS) —Ta Gah 4,853,461(22,574) Daturon 2,262,524(13,387) Elizabeth 2,248,713(12,355) Yerka 1,544,373(9,359) Tyr 1,183,603(7,890)
4:40 for CSE with LizTroi, Daturon, Ta Gah, and Tyr bringing up the Kang.
Hi fives, y'all.
Now seriously. Lay off the meth.
EDIT: CombatLog, if you were interested:
CombatLogReader—Cure Space[4:40]— Dmg(DPS) —Ta Gah 4,853,461(22,574) Daturon 2,262,524(13,387) Elizabeth 2,248,713(12,355) Yerka 1,544,373(9,359) Tyr 1,183,603(7,890)
DBeaSSt
Re: Roleplay event scheduling
I am wondering if there is a way to observe the role play. Something like an out of character or observer or something like that?
I'm curious about the events and would like to get an idea what it's like in-game. I'm not new to role play but haven't experienced it in the Trek universe.
I'm curious about the events and would like to get an idea what it's like in-game. I'm not new to role play but haven't experienced it in the Trek universe.